If confronted with negative experiences, we rarely try to change our perspectives to gain new insights. If we choose, we don’t even need to judge them as negative. But changing our perspective could give us the relief of all our negative emotions or unconscious reactions. We could stay calm, still think emotional uneffected and approach solutions directly. Your current perspective is your own choice.

You are not bound to your current point of view and emotional reaction

We are free to choose what we think and how we feel. We’re just accostumed to our current patterns, so they get activated unconsciously, leaving us feeling helpless. But this is just a habit you can change to another. It takes effort and time, but is possible. All it takes at first is awareness of what is. Be aware of what happens inside of your mind and your body, notice any feelings and thoughts which pop in your head. Try to step back and just watch it unfold, don’t stop it. Create a space between yourself and your mind / body. Become aware that you are more than your thoughts and feelings, ’cause you are able to observe them.

It may be easy or hard, but after some effort you’ll create a new habit of becoming aware consciously. The moment you become aware of your thoughts and feelings as an observer, you gain the power to change them. Try to experiment with new perspectives, you don’t even need to go too far. Imagine what it feels like for a child to experience that situation. The child does not know all the facts you know, it’s not living in fear of what happens in the world. It’s living in the present moment. What does it feel like to experience the situation from this perspective. There are several more you can try, like your boss, family, some stranger or even an alien. My favorite perspective is the one that creates the best feelings: the perspective of source.

See the world through the eyes of source

this is a powerful statement of Abraham Hicks. It says that through the perspective of source / god / love, you have the ability to see the beauty in anything you experience. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of your old perspective with topics like child abuse, world war and so on, but it’s possible. The benefit is you feeling better and being able to act with a clearer mind. Everyone has his own definition of god / source and thats great. So anyone will experience the world through the eyes of source in different ways. For me, it means that there is no such thing as death. And if the most bad thing that could happen to me (or others) is to die, there really is nothing to fear. This life is created for fun, it’s like a game you should play with excitement and appreciation for the details and great graphic engine. The negative experiences are serving you well, because they create new desires within you, so you can choose what you prefer to experience in life! Like watching a movie, you experience this negative emotions to extract joy out of the process of living life. The variarity brings you the joy of experiencing “better situations” which make you feel great. Without darkness, there would be no such thing as light. At least we would not recognize it.

Every experience is just an indicator of your past emotions

Considering the law of attraction, your current present moment life situation is nothing more than the result and manifestation of your past thoughts, emotions and therefore it’s vibration. Just don’t take right now too serious. Infact, every experience is also an opportunity to shift your beliefs. If you adopt a new perspective, you can change the way you think about the situation. This changes the way you feel about the situation. Do it to feel better right now. Feeling better again influences your future thoughts about the situation and creates a new belief. Because your beliefs are just repetitions of single, but chronic thoughts. Feeling better changes your beliefs.

At the end your current life situation will change, too. But that’s because of your vibrational work. With your new beliefs you got inspired to new actions which led to new results, just in case you doubt anything will change through changing your thoughts.

Do it to shift your emotional reactions and current quality of living (it feels better to feel better, doesn’t it?!), don’t do it to manifest a new reality. Shifting your vibration with the intent of changing what is, only creates resistance towards what is. With resistance you can’t feel good, without feeling good you can’t change your situation effortlessly. Focus on feeling good.

I’ve started reading @lucianop’s blogpost about his 6 favorite productivity principles, but only got to no. 5 called “Tracking”. Reading about that felt like someone hit the nail on the head. That’s exactly what was missing in my current life situation.

I know a lot, have a lot of solutions and know what action is necessary to take to reach my goals. But I don’t implement even 20% of my knowlegde and stay mostly where I am. I do not critize myself for that, but also do not push me out of my comfort zone right now. I’m happy to stay calm and at peace with me most of the time, so I have no need to “punish” myself for my own behaviour. I know what I’m doing (or not doing in this case).

But. If I would track my actions, it would be much harder for me to face the reality. Would I see reality black on white, it would be much easier for me to act on it. It would be something I could change immediately because of the data I’ve got. To addition, I would be rather motivated to improve my life situation instead of drifting away, because I love charts and statistics. Any progress would be directly visible to me. If I eat less food today, I won’t notice anything on my body or the weight I guess. But if I track it, write it down, make a chart to be able to look at it, there would be some kind of satisfaction in that action.

Nevertheless, I’ve though a bit about tracking in general and noticed those 3 principles which apply to it perfectly. Let’s take a look at each of them:

Productivity

Surely, I will become productive tracking my actions. It motivates me like I mentioned above. It also forces me to face reality completely, which leads to more dissatisfaction or awareness (depending on my judgment) and can force me to act on it. Using a chart can be much more effective to involve others into your goals, letting them watch your progress live on the kitchen wall or creating a website which they can visit daily. You gain motivational support from them and the pressure to keep going even if it’s hard.

Awareness

Awareness is the key to living in the present. It creates peace, inner silence and joy. Awareness is independent of any judgment, because it just notices what is. This is the second benefit of tracking. You gain clarity of your current life situation instead of living in denial. If you deny your own life, you deny your ability to change whatever you like, you deny your own power. Awareness brings clarity which brings your power back to you. Awareness can envolve into a zen-like stadium of inner peace, without judgment, leading to the third benefit.

Acceptance

If you are aware of what is, you have the choice to fight it – and feel burdened, or to accept it and feel free. If you feel resistance towards what is, you can’t create something new because you resist your own creation. First you need to accept what your actions have brought you to. Only then you can choose to act differently. You dont need to love your current life situation, but you need to accept it to solve the resistance.

My first attempt

Well, now where I’ve layed down all the benefits of tracking, it would be a shame if I would not start applying it by myself! So, to be a great example I lay down to you what I want to track starting today. hehe.

• my eating habits
• my sleeping habits
• the time I spend online

I think this should be enough, or I won’t have any time left for living. I chose this three areas, because they affect my life quality in many ways. I bet it will be interesting to share it with all of you. Brings positive pressure (;

This week I disconnected from my IM and cell phone. No texting, no chatting.

It transformed my life in crazy ways which I hadn’t expected. I wake up before 9am, sometimes already at 6am. I am living more in the present moment. I get things done with joy and cleaned my room. I exercise to play the piano. I feel good! Let’s focus a bit more on why this small change affected me so much.

Less Distraction.

There is silence in my head. No unnecessary smalltalk with friends, no texting out of boredom. I become bored and choose an activity which excites me most. There’s no need to distract myself from boredom, I just stop being bored. Distracting yourself from boredom is distracting yourself from life itself.
I don’t want to talk down chatting or texting with your friends. But I consider that I would rather want someone to talk to me out of his own interest in talking with me instead of out of boredom. I think I may devaluate my conversations if talking out of boredom, with no reasonable intent?

More satisfaction.

I experience much more satisfaction. I tend to eat out of boredom to experience some kind of emotions right away, but that’s really lazy. Now I rather try to find something of real emotional value to me. This approach works really well. While the positive emotional reaction to food descents relatively fast, other activities give me much more satisfaction. Plus, there is the satisfaction after the activity itself. After eating a donut I feel guilty of eating it with no hunger and out of boredom. Instead, after doing something enjoyable (and maybe challenging?) I rather feel proud of me. There is longer lasting happiness, which I would not experience directly picking up my cell phone when noticing boredom.

What’s boredom anyway?

When I was a child my mother used to tell me only stupid people get bored. The intelligent man becomes creative in finding an activity. Boredom itself is nothing evil, although I tended to judge it that way. But if you think about it, all it does is indicating your activities current level of excitement. If you are bored, there’s no life force flowing through you. All your soul wants from you now is to choose another activity. But many people tend to suffer from boredom instead of appreciating it. Imagine your car’s gas tank being empty, so your car is bored and has no life force flowing through it (no fuel). What do you do? Fill it up with fuel! You don’t cry that it’s life has come to an end. It’s not over. There is nothing incredible happening. Compare your boredom to the gas tank. It’s only an indicator. How you react is your own choice.

Suprisingly, Joshua Becker from Becoming Minimalist wrote also about “Less Texting. More Living.” a while ago. Check out his blogpost, it really resonates with me. Although he encourages us to use our phones less often instead of shutting it down, he’s also saying that texting distracts us from our present lives.

I love the changes in my life. Maybe you want to go completely offline for a week, too? It will change your way of living. And remember, boredom is only an indicator and nothing lasting. Choose something that excites you.

The last post was about the next step you should take and how changing your current direction changes your life circumstances, your manifestations and everything around you. This post is about taking this step even if it seems like not worth taking it. Inspired by Adrea Hess’ last blog post I want to dive into this topic a little bit more.

In short, what Andrea said was, that you should begin small instead of big, because you may be vibrationally not ready to take this leap. And damn, she is right! It’s quite nice to aim high, but if you haven’t shot ever before, you shouldn’t expect your best shot ever. Instead, if you take baby steps (like Andrea calls it), you can turn your vibration up right with your current actions. It’s all about alignment with what you do and where you want to be. It can be pretty hard to raise your vibration about a topic you have a chronic vibration about. But if you take baby steps, this also will solve itself.

Another point is the gigantic change that would occour in your life, if you would take a giant step and your vibration will go with it. You would feel like awakening into another life. Most people would be afraid of that.

But taking no step at all is neither the right choice. Just because you may feel that your actions would be pointless, there could be hidden power in it. You could become more interested, could align with it a bit more and get inspired. Any little action, backed up with the right vibration, could change a lot if you let it do. Relax, do your baby steps and be happy. Because even you will reach someday what you are aiming for, no matter what. You already did it as a child, didn’t you?

Anything you’ve manifested so far is the result of the vibration you’ve pondered and the steps you have taken. Now it is possible that you are unhappy with what you have manifested into your reality and want to change it. It’s simple, if you get the following point:

if your current steps and actions brought you to this life situation, other steps and actions will take you to other life situations.

Also your vibration will change – either you will change it deliberately or the new actions will change it step by step. The combination of your new vibration + the new action will bring you surely new life situations. 100%.

If you say you want to experience something new in your life, set your goal deliberately and imagine what steps you could take right now, without needing any prearrangements. If you are sure about your goal and it’s logical next step (even if it’s just a short one), adjust your vibration to the vibe of your goal. Feel it, milk the good feeling, imagine yourself accomplishing it. Only then take the first step and you will be much more effective that way.

Now watch out what the universe will bring to you. There will be drama, because the old life will not vibrate with you anymore and therefore change. And there will be new opportunities, which are aligned with your new vibration. Most people become afraid of the drama, wondering what’s going on, being stuck and frustrated. But the drama is a part of change, so be conscious of it and deliberately focus on the new direction you are diving into. Don’t let the drama affect or even change your vibration, or your new actions will be much more powerless. If you notice fear, be aware of it and change your focus on your goal. Watch where you’re going, not where you’re coming from.

Now go through the storm and be willing to change as much as you need for achieving your goal. There is no other constante than change you may have heard. It’s true, so be better willing to deliberately change instead of being forced by your circumstances. It’s your freedom. You will survive the storm quicker then you know.

One day it’s over. Don’t forget that man’s life is short compared to mother nature. For an example take a look at Wikipedia’s list of oldest trees. How do you feel now? It shouldn’t be negative to be aware of our short life time. Let’s use it to our satisfaction, inspiring us to enjoy the present.

I believe that you have big plans for your future. There is so much to do, enjoy or accomplish. It’s really to much for one life time, isn’t it? But I want you to understand that you will never get it done. There is always something more to see. I hope you now it already so you don’t need to become depressive about that. There is no point in feeling sad about all the things you will never see. Instead of that focus on the things you want to see in this life. And because you’ll never get it done, there is no point in trying to gain happiness through accomplishments. Comparing the time you use to accomplish a goal and the pursuit of the same, it would be stupid to focus on the destination instead of on the path towards it.

If you never get it done, enjoy the ride itself. That’s the simplest key to happiness.

There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. – Buddha

It is tempting to give in and to strive for excellence, isn’t it? Every one on this planet wants to be an expert on some topic, wants to be the best, wants to stand out. We cheer on such people who stand out, who reach for the highest good. Who break all limitations ordinary people have. Don’t we all want to be excellent in some way?

But before striving for being excellent in your job, your hobby or your purpose, what about yourself? Are you excellent being yourself? Because no one really can be a better version of yourself, you are the only one who really can be you. That’s why there is a very high rate that you’ll have the chance to be excellent, be the best, be the one.

Have you ever considered to start at yourself and become the best you, you ever can be? Be excellent, be yourself.

This is the most important and best personal development advice ever. I don’t care what you want to achieve, change, or fight for. Anything you need to succeed are only two things, I’m serious. let’s start – you need:

• the ability to be aware of the present, your actions and your thoughts.
• the ability to stop immediately anything you are doing.

Just in case you do not understand what I mean, I will provide you with some real life examples.

Health & Weight Loss:
To lose weight you need to control your eating habits and body exercise. Be aware of the amount and the quality of the food you are eating. Be aware of the amount of exercises and movements you do. If you’re aware and catch yourself doing something wrong, use your ability to stop it immediately. Then refocus and try some other way.

Money, Work & To-Do Lists:
Be aware of what tasks you are doing right now. You could do the most important tasks or you could use unimportant tasks as an excuse. Also be aware of the results you get. If you catch yourself procastinating, immediately stop what you are doing and choose another task.

Relationships:
Be aware of your way of interacting with other people. Be aware of what they say, listen to them carefully and speak consciously. Be able to stop any wrong behaviour immediately to change your way of interaction positively.

Exercise:
Be aware of your body movements and do them conciously, listen to your body and push yourself, but be aware of the limit. Stop immediately if you are doing it wrong, focusing on losing time or recognizing negative thoughts. Your body deserves your full attention when exercising.

Creativity:
Emerge yourself fully into your creative process and lose sight of anything around you. Become your creative output, leaving your position as the creator behind and blending with the creation.  Be aware of the beauty, but stop immediately and focus again if you recognize doing it only half-assed.

Spirituality:
When meditating, be aware of your thoughts and the stillness between them. Just be aware of all that is, be the observer of it. But if you start to identifying yourself with your thoughts again, stop immediately the second you recognize it and grow your awareness again.

That’s all you need. Go get it!

I often feel uncertain about what to do next, what to do about life in general. Which path do I want to go? There are endless possibilities and the discovery that I could be whatever I want doesn’t help me much. I still need to decide which path I want to follow.

Everyday I hear sentences like “I don’t know what to do. God give me a sign. Higher Self what is my life purpose? What do I really love to do?” in my mind and believe me, that is not empowering!

I am uncertain about my future. But Steve Pavlina said in his article called Abuse of Power that certainty is a creation, not an observation. That would mean that my act of looking FOR certainty is senseless. You just need to create it. What a shame.

“It’s foolish to act like a victim of your own uncertainty when you’re the one who’s creating it in the first place.” – Steve Pavlina

Okay. I’m certain. I know what I want to do with my life.

This month I want to take a quantum leap in taking action outside of my comfort-zone, having courage and living consciously. Let’s see if this decision will affect me on March 31st.

It’s weird, isn’t it? We are seeking happiness everywhere and through anything. We tend to eat to be happy. We buy more stuff to be happy. We exercise to see ourselves in the mirror and feel happy. We work hard to watch our seeds grow and feel happy. We contribute to the whole to be a part of it – and feel happy. We are doing so much stuff to feel happy, but happiness is right here waiting for us.

We only need to choose a though that feels a little bit better than the last one. By lifting our emotional vibration on step at a time, we feel better on step at a time. From pain to hate, from hate to frustration, from frustration to sadness, from sadness to pity, from pity to hope and from hope all the way up to joy. One step at a time.

It’s so weird. But all we need to do is to choose to feel good now. Mh..