I see the woman on the street. She’s crying miserably. I feel sorry for her, my heart hurts and I feel pain in my body. I watch her screaming and shouting to people passing by, ignoring her. I watch her crying lonely, yelling at god. I hear her saying there is no god. I hear her screaming to god again. I feel pain watching her. I feel sorry watching her. I am watching her.

Then I see a mother passing by, carring her child on her arms. The child is crying miserably. It’s turning round and round in the mother’s arms, crying, yelling and screaming.

This was the moment where I understood the woman’s journey. She’s just at the beginning of a new life. Her pain is guiding her towards her desires, disconnecting her from her old life. She is like the small child, but will grow and learn. Will become stronger and more confident. Will be able to love and to teach others.

Everything’s unfolding perfectly.

Anything you’ve manifested so far is the result of the vibration you’ve pondered and the steps you have taken. Now it is possible that you are unhappy with what you have manifested into your reality and want to change it. It’s simple, if you get the following point:

if your current steps and actions brought you to this life situation, other steps and actions will take you to other life situations.

Also your vibration will change – either you will change it deliberately or the new actions will change it step by step. The combination of your new vibration + the new action will bring you surely new life situations. 100%.

If you say you want to experience something new in your life, set your goal deliberately and imagine what steps you could take right now, without needing any prearrangements. If you are sure about your goal and it’s logical next step (even if it’s just a short one), adjust your vibration to the vibe of your goal. Feel it, milk the good feeling, imagine yourself accomplishing it. Only then take the first step and you will be much more effective that way.

Now watch out what the universe will bring to you. There will be drama, because the old life will not vibrate with you anymore and therefore change. And there will be new opportunities, which are aligned with your new vibration. Most people become afraid of the drama, wondering what’s going on, being stuck and frustrated. But the drama is a part of change, so be conscious of it and deliberately focus on the new direction you are diving into. Don’t let the drama affect or even change your vibration, or your new actions will be much more powerless. If you notice fear, be aware of it and change your focus on your goal. Watch where you’re going, not where you’re coming from.

Now go through the storm and be willing to change as much as you need for achieving your goal. There is no other constante than change you may have heard. It’s true, so be better willing to deliberately change instead of being forced by your circumstances. It’s your freedom. You will survive the storm quicker then you know.

I often feel uncertain about what to do next, what to do about life in general. Which path do I want to go? There are endless possibilities and the discovery that I could be whatever I want doesn’t help me much. I still need to decide which path I want to follow.

Everyday I hear sentences like “I don’t know what to do. God give me a sign. Higher Self what is my life purpose? What do I really love to do?” in my mind and believe me, that is not empowering!

I am uncertain about my future. But Steve Pavlina said in his article called Abuse of Power that certainty is a creation, not an observation. That would mean that my act of looking FOR certainty is senseless. You just need to create it. What a shame.

“It’s foolish to act like a victim of your own uncertainty when you’re the one who’s creating it in the first place.” – Steve Pavlina

Okay. I’m certain. I know what I want to do with my life.

This month I want to take a quantum leap in taking action outside of my comfort-zone, having courage and living consciously. Let’s see if this decision will affect me on March 31st.

Author’s Note: This is the start of a series about Minimalism and my pursuit of it. Feel free to share it via twitter & co.

Author’s Note: This is the start of a series about Minimalism and my pursuit of it. Feel free to share it via twitter & co.

The first time I heard about Minimalism was reading Zen Habits. I really like the idea of it being an extension of the known “Simplicity lifestyle”. Minimalism leads to freedom, clarity, true abundance and focus. Somehow, you gain more through having less.

I get clarity.

“The things you own end up owning you.” ~ Tyler Durden

Who am I? I’m defining myself like many others by the possesions I have. But who am I under all this stuff? I get clarity in my mind by creating clarity in my life. I want to relate only on truly important things, saying proudly: “That’s a part of me, of my life.” With Minimalism I can see easyly what I own and why I own it. If it doesn’t bring me joy, comfort or freedom, it needs to go. I declutter my mind by decluttering my space.

I get freedom.

I see myself traveling through foreign countries, only with one backpack with all my stuff. If you do not own much, you are able to move with nearly all of it from space to space. But I also sense another form of freedom. I’m free of attachment. I can not only know but experience that I do not need all of these fancy things to be happy.

I get focus.

No distractions on your desk. Sharp focus. Intense clarity. Deep calmness. Flowing creativity leads to impressive productivity.

I get true abundance.

I feel abudant independently of any circumstances around me. I don’t need to spend much money on stuff, so I safe more. I don’t need to spend much time on stuff, so I have more. I don’t need to spend much space on stuff, so I see more. Minimalism is creating pure abundance in my life.

Clarity, Freedom, Focus, Abundance and Joy. That’s why I love Minimalism.

it’s really simple:

1. define what you would like to experience and how it would feel.
2. focus on the pure feeling and believe you will experience it.
3. be happy in anticipation of what is coming to you.

the anticipation should make you feel great right where you are.

Source: Abraham Hicks

All my life I’ve struggled with one topic more than with anything else. Going to school. And I bet I am not alone! So what I really want to know is if my hate, my pain, my loss of motivation and my loss of purpose are immutable? May I be able to change myself so crucial that I would start to love school? I only live once and this month, the February of 2010, I will try to change myself for the sake of science and personal development

I love school.

25 days of pretending based on “fake it till you make it”. I may be concerned that I won’t follow the path of my heart but I really feel inspired to try it. I know that 25 days are a lot of time and that I may be discouraged after one week or even one day. But I will try to force myself until it hurts to shift my focus from hate to love.

I want to setup a love school mindset and tell myself that I love school, only focusing on the positive aspects of it. And yes there are more than one I’ve found so far:

1. Breaks
2. Socializing
3. General knowledge
4. Future business contacts
5. After school projects and activites
6. Special access for school groups
7. A-level / university-entrance diploma
8. Lower responsibility (no taxes, no community service)
9. Observe social situations and learn rhetoric
10. I can do sport activities with friends for free

I think there are several more but this are my 10 major aspects I want to focus on. What I want to stop is to focus on the negative problems that occur with going to school at 8am. Instead I will change my mind-chatter into sentences like: I want to feel more relaxed and energized. I want to have fun learning new languages, mathematical theories, biological structures and historical facts. I want to feel a surge to engage myself for my reputation at school, having fun while being in class and entertain myself by learning.

Today this sounds really like an utopia. But I am very curious about the outcome and the consequences on my other interests or social activities.

The School Game

I see my life as a human game experience I’ve got, while being a divine being in my human body. This allows me to see life as exciting, challenging and not frustrating or depressing. There is no real good or evil, but there is an experience I’ve got as the divine being.

Now translate this model of reality onto school. I am a human playing the school game. I know it’s only a game and failing won’t kill me, but rather give me experience to learn from. There will be plenty of fun out there waiting for me, good marks and bad marks, but all in all it will be experiences which lead me as a human being, playing the pupil, to grow and expand. You can compare graduation with a death experience. At the end we will all die (or commit suicide and leave school earlier) and thats why it only counts how you lived your life (what marks you’ve got), how much fun you’ve had. At the end there will be a Numerus Clausus, your mark, summed from all of your life experiences (summed from all of your exams and marks). All that counts is that you had fun!

Converting Old Beliefs

There are several beliefs about school I hold for too long. I want to convert them into positive beliefs which support me in playing the school game. Here are some of them listed and converted:

old beliefs:

1. School steals my free time
2. I got no money for going to school
3. I could achieve a lot of things without my a-levels
4. I need to invest f*king lots of hours of my life
5. I need to struggle and push myself even after school

now converted:

1. I have 24hours of free time, which I use for things that deliver fun and pleasure like playing the school game
2. I can play the game for free, but I would even pay for playing it like I need to pay for a ride on a roller coaster.
3. I can play even more games in the “human game” with my A-levels
4. I invest hours of my life and gain fun.
5. I am playing for fun even the whole day to get more skilled.

That are some examples of mine. I bet there will be several more new phrases after the first week.

I’ve created several other tools for defeating spontaneous depression or creating and boosting my motivation. For example if I feel overwhelmed by school one day, facing my upcoming exams or A-levels, I will face that day exclusively. It will be a game for itself. Focus on every step until you reached the top (of the day).
In other cases I will need special motivation. I may perceive the day as a special level where I need to “win that exam”. I may see that class as some sort of boss I need to beat. I may try to trick the teacher and make him believe I am fully motivated that day even if I want to run, but the tricking could be my quest.

Go With The Flow

Again I need to remember to go with the flow. I don’t want to start paddling upstream but to focus on the positive aspects of school, focus on feeling good all the time and go with the flow of the school day. I don’t need to control anything there, its everything already done for me to become a great student. The teachers are there, the books are there, the other people are there. Everything is waiting for me to start playing.

by Freewine

Today I want to talk briefly about something that touched me lately alot.
For me it was very hard to push myself to finish goals, or pursue some of my big dreams, or implement some necessary habits. All these things have one thing in common and I thought for a long time by myself that this one thing was just a lack of self-discipline. I mean, it’s obvious, isn’t it? But lately things changed. I’ve realized something different that these failures all had in common.  It was not a lack of self-discipline. I just did not wanted to do them. Not at all.

What the hell?

Yes I know. It sounds really stupid. But I got to tell you something about myself first. Soon after discovering personal development for myself I started to read a lot. I got some ideas about what really was possible in my life and saw many people doing great stuff. Some of them impressed me more than others. The greatest example will be Steve Pavlina. Oh hell I read a lot on his blog and I noticed patterns in his behavior. What he did, what he not did. And slowly I started to shift from focusing what I wanted, what my heart really wanted, to what my mind told me to want. I never realized the difference. But I started to set goals and dreams for myself that I got from outside of myself. From others. My mind told me what a dream life should be like. It’s like people who say their dream life would contain a villa, ten cars, a playmate as a wife and some fame. But when they achieve something similar, they realize that this was nothing than dust. I had the same experience just that I wasn’t materialistic at all and it all played in the field of personal development.

Some of the dreams were the same my heart wanted to pursue but my mind stayed in control and forced me to work on my goals whenever I had free time. I felt like I really wanted to but I never achieved anything significant through this method. My mind started to go crazy. Imagine me working on several different goals but none of them succeeded. I was confused. I asked myself the biggest question I could imagine: “What’s my purpose and passion?”

I still was confused and so I started to search. I tried to become a Rapstar. Rawfoodist. A full-time blogger. A Beat Producer. Novelist. Coach for Rap, the Law of Attraction or Rawfood. It was horrible because non of my goals really worked and I couldn’t understand why. My only answer was every time: “This is not my passion. I need to move on.” I really felt like a so-called “scanner” who never gets something done. I was frustrated, depressed and even considered to drop out of school. I really could not understand what was going on.

The Magical Helper

I was discouraged and created for myself a wallpaper saying: “I have clarity. I know my passion. I know the steps and goals for the dreams I want to achieve.” but I didn’t expected it to work at all. In the meantime I got to know a new girl, who is now a good friend of mine. We met because of social media and rawfood, but none of us was really into it, we both saw it like a future dream we want to accomplish as soon as possible so we had some sense of connection between us. We don’t really could go on without arguing a bit but I take all of her critisizm serious.  She told me that I was not myself. I was hiding behind the mask of several Steve Pavlinas or Leo Babautas. I did not understand a word she was saying there. But it touched me somewhere deep down and on the same weekend my girlfriend and I had a long conversation about some small problems we had in our relationship. It was weird but we figured out that I had problems to be myself again. I shut myself and my feelings down to protect myself and my girlfriend from “unnecessary problems” I wanted to solve for myself. I’ve read Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power Of Now” and wanted to get those emotions and thoughts out of my brain. I thought: “This is stupid! I don’t want and should feel like that. It’s not reality what I feel. I don’t need to feel this way.” and lied several times to my girlfriend about my mood.

But in reality this was exactly the problem. What caused myself to feel bad was her clinging to her best friend (male) but I had no reason to feel bad because I knew she loves me. But because of myself shutting down my emotions I got very cold to her and she needed heartiness from me. But because I was unconsciously unable to provide her with the feeling of love (although I REALLY wanted!) she walked over to her best friend. Unconsciously. What a circle.

So what happened after I’ve started to say what I was feeling? My ideal outcome of not feeling bad about the situation came in through what I feared the most! This is so incredible. Now the problem gradually gets solved because we both know what we need. Our love. And this started to open my eyes a bit. I started to tell others again what I felt AND told them, that I know I don’t need to feel that way and I was going to fix it. But for that time I just wanted to let them know.

What About The Passion Thing?

Well. A few days after these experience I had another fight conversation with that new girl. She told me again that I needed to stop doing something and watch myself. Zen stuff. I knew Zen but I didn’t understand again until speaking to my girlfriend. We revealed what I told you above. I was searching for my passion while using my mind. Ironically I even tried to ask my intuition and had no success, while I suppose that this small voice was screaming to me all the time. I just had not listened to it.

What did I did? I stopped to do something. I stopped and listened. What did my heart wanted right now? Shut up fuckin’ mind! Silence. Silence. And then a little voice appeared and told me things like go for a walk. Or read a book, a NOVEL again. No personal development stuff. Things I did very rarely. I was confused. But I did it. It felt good and .. nothing else. It just felt good. It wasn’t part of a goal, of a great plan. I wasn’t achieving something significant. I did nothing but enjoyed stuff. CRAZY. WEIRD. Is this life..?

Now I try to stop my mind thinking in terms of achievements. Successes. Goals. I just wanted to know what I really wanted first. Then I could move on. And until I don’t discover what my heart really pushes myself into I just will write or rap or eat or dance or draw or create what feels good to me.

I think this is called to “Go With The Flow”.

by Stephen Poff

Why not?

Yes. You could loose all your money, your car, your home, your wife and / or your children, your family could hate you, you could have nothing to eat. But hell it’s worth it! – if you gonna accept the consequences and will be willing to learn.

Because sometimes we really need to fall deep down until we’ve learned something essential. We know that a lot of really successful people had a hard youth, not much money and problems. But they’ve overcome this obstacles, they’ve survived and: they’ve learned. They got courage, they know how to break the greatest walls on the way to your dreams. That’s why I recommend:

If you are falling already, keep falling until you learn your lesson. Then never fall again so deep.

Remember that you should only fall once in your lifetime in the same way. Then never again. Be open to every emotion you’ll feel, keep your clarity even in the worst case scenario and you’ll gain so much power, strenght, courage and energy from your failure, that you’ll have the energy to run up that hill again – and even much further than the point from where you’ve fallen down.

But never fall down without learning your lession or you’ll need to repeat it again. And again. And again. I want you to understand that failure is the real success. Even if you are going to fall a hundred times until you’ll be successful, in reality you have succeeded a hundred times before putting all peaces together to unravel the mystery.

And really: The best way to get clarity about a topic is through an ultimate failure. When you’ll realize what matters the most, get up. Your dream is waiting.

by zachstern

Face it. You are different from anyone else on this planet. Maybe some guys tell you that you are strange and there are several reasons for them to do this. But don’t complain, just be thankful. Because they show you what you already know inside. You are different than the regular citizen. You’ve got other thoughts, other hobbies, other interests. Maybe even already other goals.
But remember: You Are Not Alone.
We are nothing better than the regular citizen. We are all equal, but just different in our actions. Everyone on this planet is unique, even if some of us share the same interests. Don’t be arrogant, you are not better than anyone else. If you think that way, your personal development isn’t very high, but that’s great. Why? Because you’ll have still a long way to go where you can learn a lot of great stuff.

What do you do if you are not the same?

Enjoy your life and leave a legacy of great achievements. Do something special, create value and enjoy growth. Life’s a gift, even if you can’t believe it’s paths your gonna be still in the flow..