Yeah, you know that, too?

Okay. I’ve stuck in my current job for over a year now. After the learning phase I’ve realized that it was quite boring and I begun to complain, to look for something epic, for something my heart would want me to do. I’ve build more and more resistance on that topic. But lately  I’ve started to enjoy it as much as I can. I stopped complaining a lot, I’ve released some resistance, I’ve accepted that right now I’m doing this job and I’ve tried to enjoy the small things in the everyday work life. It worked. Now I feel happy sometimes, while being most of the time just bored. It’s still better than being frustrated or angry, but it’s not very enjoyable, too.

But this shift in my perceptions changed my point of view on “dream jobs”. Why should I search for something that I LOVE right now, when I haven’t figured it out yet? I can still keep my eyes open, while changing my job to something slightly better, right? Yeah.. that’s what I’ve realized. Surely it is the most beautiful thing on earth to do what you love for a living, but it’s quite nice to do something you like, too. I can find a job that’s a bit more enjoyable than this one, but still not my dream job and live happily ever after, too! At least as long until I really get bored again.

Searching for the “bit better job”

When I’m enjoying this right now, then I’d enjoy the same thing in another, but cooler enviroment. Or a cooler action in the same enviroment. Not everything needs to change, but just some small adjustments could make my worklife much happier. And then, when I’m in my new job, I still can keep my eyes open for something even more fulfilling.

I’m only 20. Why on earth should I freak out on finding my LIFE PURPOSE DREAM JOB right now, when I don’t even know life really well? I rather enjoy life right now, do something enjoyable and search for a quite more enjoyable job by the side. That’s it for now.

Be happy.

Today I want to share with you an article I’ve read about Not Giving A Fuck. It’s even called The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck and is written by Julien Smith (a New York Times bestselling author). It’s great and that’s why you will read it now.

Good. This is the start of a series called Road to Happiness that will contain some great resources, which inspired me to all of this.

Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. -Dale Carnegie

I’ve experienced that my fear of rejection declined my happiness in life. We all have. But we do not need to do this anymore. I’m trying to break free from my thoughts about other’s opinions about me for some time now. It’s a long-lasting process, if you’ve experienced pain several times in your past. But it’s completely achieveable. If you read the article, you will now know how to do it. I’ve liked it as a good reminder because it summons many aspects of a happy life into one step by step task list.

First you need to stop giving a fuck, before you can create your dream life.

It is not what happens to you but how you respond to what happens to you.

Today I explored the reasons of my happiness in life. I think that’s a valuable lesson everyone should do, because it gives you advice on how to make yourself happy. You can give this list also to your lovely ones as they can see what they could do to improve your happiness if they wish to. Here I go with my list:

I am happy when..

• I’ve got a productive goal I can work on, which is achievable but also challenging.
• I’m eating only as much as I need to still my hunger. Not more.
• I’m eating more small meals a day being able to fully appreciate them.
• I’m reading great books or have a stack of them on my desk to look forward to!
• I’m seeing my parents being happy.
• I’m productive doing something I like or love.
• I’m creative doing something I like or love.
• I’ve achieved something productive or creative.
• I can learn something new and turn the process into a goal.
• I get depper insights and correlations.
• I’m having profound conversations.
• I’m explaining and teaching.
• I’m talking about my favorite topics with others.
• I’m in the now, focusing on and keeping my thoughts in the present.
• I’m seeing simplicity / minimalism, or clean to achieve it.
• I’m aware of the beauty of something (appreciation and gratitude).
• I’m drinking Tea ( because I’m present, I slow down, hydrate and got style).
• I’m doing, having or wearing something that has style (suits, watches,..).
• I’m starting the day the right way (wake up early, go slowly, become positive).
• I’m working with other people towards one goal.
• I’m creating things out of this air and give birth to new ideas.
• I’m reading about business (success) or spirituality (happiness).
• I’m spending time positively with others (chill out, sports, party).
• I’m looking for positive things.
• I’m saving money to buy something special.
• I’m creating ideas and write them down.
• I’m planning.
• I’m imagining positive experiences
• I’m using admirable technology like the iPod Touch, my notebook, etc.
• I’m watching my favorite sitcoms like Dr. House, Scrubs, How I Met Your Mother, etc.

What about you? What makes you happy? Leave a comment!

Thank you dear negative emotion. I’m grateful you’ve shown up to indicate my desires I wasn’t aware of. Now that I can understand why you are here and what I am wanting, I can work on achieving it and can release you. Thank you, dear emotion.

Just popped into my mind and helps me releasing my current negative emotions. I think, it changes your perspective on your current emotion. When I feel bad I’m judging it as bad to feel bad. This creates resistance and prevents me from releasing and shifting my emotions. When being thankful for your emotion it dissolves your judgment, releasing the resistance and allowing you to feel better. On top of this you identify the true reason for feeling your emotions which is your deepest desire for some change. But as you know you can only get what you want when you are in vibrational alignment with what you want, you now are able to bring yourself into that alignment through deliberate visualization, thoughts and focusing on the things you want to see.

You are not bound to your current point of view and emotional reaction

We are free to choose what we think and how we feel. We’re just accostumed to our current patterns, so they get activated unconsciously, leaving us feeling helpless. But this is just a habit you can change to another. It takes effort and time, but is possible. All it takes at first is awareness of what is. Be aware of what happens inside of your mind and your body, notice any feelings and thoughts which pop in your head. Try to step back and just watch it unfold, don’t stop it. Create a space between yourself and your mind / body. Become aware that you are more than your thoughts and feelings, ’cause you are able to observe them.

It may be easy or hard, but after some effort you’ll create a new habit of becoming aware consciously. The moment you become aware of your thoughts and feelings as an observer, you gain the power to change them. Try to experiment with new perspectives, you don’t even need to go too far. Imagine what it feels like for a child to experience that situation. The child does not know all the facts you know, it’s not living in fear of what happens in the world. It’s living in the present moment. What does it feel like to experience the situation from this perspective. There are several more you can try, like your boss, family, some stranger or even an alien. My favorite perspective is the one that creates the best feelings: the perspective of source.

See the world through the eyes of source

this is a powerful statement of Abraham Hicks. It says that through the perspective of source / god / love, you have the ability to see the beauty in anything you experience. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of your old perspective with topics like child abuse, world war and so on, but it’s possible. The benefit is you feeling better and being able to act with a clearer mind. Everyone has his own definition of god / source and thats great. So anyone will experience the world through the eyes of source in different ways. For me, it means that there is no such thing as death. And if the most bad thing that could happen to me (or others) is to die, there really is nothing to fear. This life is created for fun, it’s like a game you should play with excitement and appreciation for the details and great graphic engine. The negative experiences are serving you well, because they create new desires within you, so you can choose what you prefer to experience in life! Like watching a movie, you experience this negative emotions to extract joy out of the process of living life. The variarity brings you the joy of experiencing “better situations” which make you feel great. Without darkness, there would be no such thing as light. At least we would not recognize it.

Every experience is just an indicator of your past emotions

Considering the law of attraction, your current present moment life situation is nothing more than the result and manifestation of your past thoughts, emotions and therefore it’s vibration. Just don’t take right now too serious. Infact, every experience is also an opportunity to shift your beliefs. If you adopt a new perspective, you can change the way you think about the situation. This changes the way you feel about the situation. Do it to feel better right now. Feeling better again influences your future thoughts about the situation and creates a new belief. Because your beliefs are just repetitions of single, but chronic thoughts. Feeling better changes your beliefs.

At the end your current life situation will change, too. But that’s because of your vibrational work. With your new beliefs you got inspired to new actions which led to new results, just in case you doubt anything will change through changing your thoughts.

Do it to shift your emotional reactions and current quality of living (it feels better to feel better, doesn’t it?!), don’t do it to manifest a new reality. Shifting your vibration with the intent of changing what is, only creates resistance towards what is. With resistance you can’t feel good, without feeling good you can’t change your situation effortlessly. Focus on feeling good.

It transformed my life in crazy ways which I hadn’t expected. I wake up before 9am, sometimes already at 6am. I am living more in the present moment. I get things done with joy and cleaned my room. I exercise to play the piano. I feel good! Let’s focus a bit more on why this small change affected me so much.

Less Distraction.

There is silence in my head. No unnecessary smalltalk with friends, no texting out of boredom. I become bored and choose an activity which excites me most. There’s no need to distract myself from boredom, I just stop being bored. Distracting yourself from boredom is distracting yourself from life itself.
I don’t want to talk down chatting or texting with your friends. But I consider that I would rather want someone to talk to me out of his own interest in talking with me instead of out of boredom. I think I may devaluate my conversations if talking out of boredom, with no reasonable intent?

More satisfaction.

I experience much more satisfaction. I tend to eat out of boredom to experience some kind of emotions right away, but that’s really lazy. Now I rather try to find something of real emotional value to me. This approach works really well. While the positive emotional reaction to food descents relatively fast, other activities give me much more satisfaction. Plus, there is the satisfaction after the activity itself. After eating a donut I feel guilty of eating it with no hunger and out of boredom. Instead, after doing something enjoyable (and maybe challenging?) I rather feel proud of me. There is longer lasting happiness, which I would not experience directly picking up my cell phone when noticing boredom.

What’s boredom anyway?

When I was a child my mother used to tell me only stupid people get bored. The intelligent man becomes creative in finding an activity. Boredom itself is nothing evil, although I tended to judge it that way. But if you think about it, all it does is indicating your activities current level of excitement. If you are bored, there’s no life force flowing through you. All your soul wants from you now is to choose another activity. But many people tend to suffer from boredom instead of appreciating it. Imagine your car’s gas tank being empty, so your car is bored and has no life force flowing through it (no fuel). What do you do? Fill it up with fuel! You don’t cry that it’s life has come to an end. It’s not over. There is nothing incredible happening. Compare your boredom to the gas tank. It’s only an indicator. How you react is your own choice.

Suprisingly, Joshua Becker from Becoming Minimalist wrote also about “Less Texting. More Living.” a while ago. Check out his blogpost, it really resonates with me. Although he encourages us to use our phones less often instead of shutting it down, he’s also saying that texting distracts us from our present lives.

I love the changes in my life. Maybe you want to go completely offline for a week, too? It will change your way of living. And remember, boredom is only an indicator and nothing lasting. Choose something that excites you.

One day it’s over. Don’t forget that man’s life is short compared to mother nature. For an example take a look at Wikipedia’s list of oldest trees. How do you feel now? It shouldn’t be negative to be aware of our short life time. Let’s use it to our satisfaction, inspiring us to enjoy the present.

I believe that you have big plans for your future. There is so much to do, enjoy or accomplish. It’s really to much for one life time, isn’t it? But I want you to understand that you will never get it done. There is always something more to see. I hope you now it already so you don’t need to become depressive about that. There is no point in feeling sad about all the things you will never see. Instead of that focus on the things you want to see in this life. And because you’ll never get it done, there is no point in trying to gain happiness through accomplishments. Comparing the time you use to accomplish a goal and the pursuit of the same, it would be stupid to focus on the destination instead of on the path towards it.

If you never get it done, enjoy the ride itself. That’s the simplest key to happiness.

There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. – Buddha

It is tempting to give in and to strive for excellence, isn’t it? Every one on this planet wants to be an expert on some topic, wants to be the best, wants to stand out. We cheer on such people who stand out, who reach for the highest good. Who break all limitations ordinary people have. Don’t we all want to be excellent in some way?

But before striving for being excellent in your job, your hobby or your purpose, what about yourself? Are you excellent being yourself? Because no one really can be a better version of yourself, you are the only one who really can be you. That’s why there is a very high rate that you’ll have the chance to be excellent, be the best, be the one.

Have you ever considered to start at yourself and become the best you, you ever can be? Be excellent, be yourself.

I often feel uncertain about what to do next, what to do about life in general. Which path do I want to go? There are endless possibilities and the discovery that I could be whatever I want doesn’t help me much. I still need to decide which path I want to follow.

Everyday I hear sentences like “I don’t know what to do. God give me a sign. Higher Self what is my life purpose? What do I really love to do?” in my mind and believe me, that is not empowering!

I am uncertain about my future. But Steve Pavlina said in his article called Abuse of Power that certainty is a creation, not an observation. That would mean that my act of looking FOR certainty is senseless. You just need to create it. What a shame.

“It’s foolish to act like a victim of your own uncertainty when you’re the one who’s creating it in the first place.” – Steve Pavlina

Okay. I’m certain. I know what I want to do with my life.

This month I want to take a quantum leap in taking action outside of my comfort-zone, having courage and living consciously. Let’s see if this decision will affect me on March 31st.

It’s weird, isn’t it? We are seeking happiness everywhere and through anything. We tend to eat to be happy. We buy more stuff to be happy. We exercise to see ourselves in the mirror and feel happy. We work hard to watch our seeds grow and feel happy. We contribute to the whole to be a part of it – and feel happy. We are doing so much stuff to feel happy, but happiness is right here waiting for us.

We only need to choose a though that feels a little bit better than the last one. By lifting our emotional vibration on step at a time, we feel better on step at a time. From pain to hate, from hate to frustration, from frustration to sadness, from sadness to pity, from pity to hope and from hope all the way up to joy. One step at a time.

It’s so weird. But all we need to do is to choose to feel good now. Mh..