What keeps me from being rich?

“That’s life, Bro.” a friend told me, after I’ve described him my financial goals in contrast to my financial situation. Rather than being content with the status quo, I really wanted to discover why I still wasn’t rich yet.

My thinking has changed radically over the time of one year. I’ve become definitely more positive and confident. That radiates into all of my life areas. As a believer in the law of attraction, I’m determined to work within me first, before taking action and working “outside” to achieve any goal. When I’m no vibrational match for my goal, all of my efforts are nearly worthless and self-sabotaging. I’ve shifted my emotions around many topics, but only the topic of money seemed to remain constantly on the same level.

It was yesterday when I’ve realized which deep rooted belief about being rich I’ve still got active within me. After having great talks with folks and being in my zone, I got a stroke of insight about why on earth I’m not working towards becoming rich.

My belief goes like this:
This world is full of great experiences in which I want to participate one day. Most of them can only be experienced by paying an amount of money which I’m not having right now. But those experiences are limited. Once I become rich, I will try to experience all of them in the shortest amount of time [is this really true?]. I fear that once I’ve experienced all of it in an early age [for example 30 years old], my life would become meaningless, boring and frustrating. There will be nothing exciting on earth to do anymore, I will have seen any beautiful sights and have done any extreme sports. Life would become pointless at that point.

That was my previous belief.
Stupid, isn’t it? Well, I guess it’s just a fear based perception of a rich man’s life. I don’t care when I’ve created this belief, I just care about changing it. But that isn’t a problem at all, now where I know my fears and what it is I want to avoid. I’ve written a new version of my belief that allows me to be happy in anticipation of being rich. I’m no longer sabotaging my wealth anymore, because being rich won’t lead to a meaningless and boring life, but instead to a life full of new and exciting possibilities.

My current belief:
Life is fun. It’s all about the fun of the ride, it’s all about the journey. That’s why there won’t be any end in sight, ever. I’ll always have new ideas, new desires and therefor new goals to walk towards. Once I become rich, even when I’m still in my twenties, I’ll be granted a lot of new possibilities to experience life. I’ll be bothered by different things then, so my thoughts won’t rotate around fears of poverty and survival anymore. These will be finished life quests I’ve conquered in the past. Now I’m on to new sights, new goals and therefor new quests. They may focus about uplifting the people around me and creating new ways to contribute to the whole of the planet. They won’t be focused only on myself anymore. I can imagine that there are endless quests in front of me, waiting to be conquered and solved. I have images of new ecologically beneficial technologies and cities. I have images of journeys into the depth of new galaxies, of under water built cities, of worldwide saturation and expanding growth of all humans on earth. There are endless ideas, possibilities and challenges to solve and have fun with. The game of life won’t ever end in boring ways. I have fun on the way, I love the idea of never ending quests and I love the fact that I know how to feel good in any given moment! Life is fun..

Feels damn good, doesn’t it? :’D

Today I want to share with you an article I’ve read about Not Giving A Fuck. It’s even called The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck and is written by Julien Smith (a New York Times bestselling author). It’s great and that’s why you will read it now.

Good. This is the start of a series called Road to Happiness that will contain some great resources, which inspired me to all of this.

Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. -Dale Carnegie

I’ve experienced that my fear of rejection declined my happiness in life. We all have. But we do not need to do this anymore. I’m trying to break free from my thoughts about other’s opinions about me for some time now. It’s a long-lasting process, if you’ve experienced pain several times in your past. But it’s completely achieveable. If you read the article, you will now know how to do it. I’ve liked it as a good reminder because it summons many aspects of a happy life into one step by step task list.

First you need to stop giving a fuck, before you can create your dream life.

It is not what happens to you but how you respond to what happens to you.

I’ve come to the realization, that security is more of a feeling, more of a mindset, than the posession of something. Basically it’s trusting yourself more than fearing the future. Also now where I’ve adopted the law of attraction lifestyle, I’m gaining a deeper understanding of why I should feel secure before I get the manifestational evidence of security.

So what would be the best for me and for my family to do?
It’s easy now for me to see:
I want to feel secure and safe right now, even improving that state of being and work with that mindset towards the future. Then there will be manifestational evidence for my family, that I can show them and that’s alright with me. But I can’t be focused on the evidence first, because this would build up resistance. With resistance there will be no manifestation, and with resistance there is no true feeling of security, is it?

Feel Secure First. Evidence Comes After.

It’s hard for people who don’t want to trust blindly towards something, they’ve never seen with their eyes. There is no evidence but your feelings and that’s what you should focus on only. Just improve your secure feeling. Then the manifestation will come, but it must be irrelevant to you if there’s evidence. The most important thing to you must be your feeling! You need to realize that what you’re seeking is not the evidence of security, but the feeling that the evidence would give you. So stop searching for the evidence and “fake it, till you make it” like they say.

Remember, it’s all about your reality, your feelings and your life experience. You don’t owe anything to anyone. It’s all about you in the first line. If you don’t feel good, you can’t help anyone feel better.

Look, you meet new people and introduce you like any other guy (or girl). That’s what Mars Dorian also critizies in one of his articles about how to make people remember you. You don’t think you are special but you are, and that’s why you should start to introduce you in another way. At least that’s what I think about myself, even if I would be the only one who thinks that way. I like the idea of controlling the impression you give to others. All you say will influence their image of yours, so why not to pre-write what you will normally tell people you meet about yourself? I don’t mean that you should overthink any word you use, bringing catchy phrases or similar stupid stuff.

I just mean to be well prepared for such a situation. To be the leader of the chat. To know how to impresse, if it’s your wish. I like the feeling of being in control. So why shouldn’t we all note some ideas down? About our own life, what we have achieved, what we are doing right now and the way we can represent it in a good light.

That’s what I gonna do now. I want to create my own sexy life story. I’m not boring, and you aren’t either!

What do you think about the topic? Doesn’t it shine a new spotlight on self-mastery? on self-discipline, dedication, motivation and persistence? This are values I highly recommend to adopt, but I’m also guilty of not playing a role model here. I would love to. But even if I have not achieved it yet, you should start thinking about it.

Some Examples?
If you want to lose weight, imagine being slim. How does a slim person feel, how does he behave and what does he eat? Mostly they would feel great about themselves (motivation), would exercise or be proactive and eat healthy (action to accomplish your goal). Behave like that and you’ll soon be living your dream.

If you want to be confident in speaking with women, but feel like not deserving their attention, just turn it around. You are the prize and they need to convince you, that they are good enough. Now how does such a person think and feel of themselves? Start thinking and feeling that way about yourself. You will behaving like you’ve dreamed of, because it will be the effect of your cause of changing your mindset.

I think you got the point.

I’m having many small synchronicities and 11:11 moments again. One of them is the german electronic musician Paul Kalkbrenner, who’s famous for his records “Sky and Sand” and “Aaron”. I’m recommending his music to everyone who wants to enjoy relaxing moments. I just felt like sharing his music with all of you. I’m not judging those synchronicities, but I’m happy to experience them. They give me a feeling of certainty, that I am on my way.

Also, as I’ve started this project because of Steve Pavlina who’s doing his own 30 day trial of inspirational living, I’m experiencing similarities with his experiences and my own. I also want to use the subjective perspective as a tool to heal my own fears I hide from myself. I’ve experienced that I should not behave how I think I should do, but how I feel like being most myself. But if I want to behave in another way than I feel inspired to, I should expand myself and merge those new characteristics in myself. Then I can act accordingly to them and be authentic. That’s what brings the most success, I assume. I’ll see.

by the way .. today is the 11.08.2010.
0+8+2+0+1+0 = 11.
11.11 (:

You are not bound to your current point of view and emotional reaction

We are free to choose what we think and how we feel. We’re just accostumed to our current patterns, so they get activated unconsciously, leaving us feeling helpless. But this is just a habit you can change to another. It takes effort and time, but is possible. All it takes at first is awareness of what is. Be aware of what happens inside of your mind and your body, notice any feelings and thoughts which pop in your head. Try to step back and just watch it unfold, don’t stop it. Create a space between yourself and your mind / body. Become aware that you are more than your thoughts and feelings, ’cause you are able to observe them.

It may be easy or hard, but after some effort you’ll create a new habit of becoming aware consciously. The moment you become aware of your thoughts and feelings as an observer, you gain the power to change them. Try to experiment with new perspectives, you don’t even need to go too far. Imagine what it feels like for a child to experience that situation. The child does not know all the facts you know, it’s not living in fear of what happens in the world. It’s living in the present moment. What does it feel like to experience the situation from this perspective. There are several more you can try, like your boss, family, some stranger or even an alien. My favorite perspective is the one that creates the best feelings: the perspective of source.

See the world through the eyes of source

this is a powerful statement of Abraham Hicks. It says that through the perspective of source / god / love, you have the ability to see the beauty in anything you experience. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of your old perspective with topics like child abuse, world war and so on, but it’s possible. The benefit is you feeling better and being able to act with a clearer mind. Everyone has his own definition of god / source and thats great. So anyone will experience the world through the eyes of source in different ways. For me, it means that there is no such thing as death. And if the most bad thing that could happen to me (or others) is to die, there really is nothing to fear. This life is created for fun, it’s like a game you should play with excitement and appreciation for the details and great graphic engine. The negative experiences are serving you well, because they create new desires within you, so you can choose what you prefer to experience in life! Like watching a movie, you experience this negative emotions to extract joy out of the process of living life. The variarity brings you the joy of experiencing “better situations” which make you feel great. Without darkness, there would be no such thing as light. At least we would not recognize it.

Every experience is just an indicator of your past emotions

Considering the law of attraction, your current present moment life situation is nothing more than the result and manifestation of your past thoughts, emotions and therefore it’s vibration. Just don’t take right now too serious. Infact, every experience is also an opportunity to shift your beliefs. If you adopt a new perspective, you can change the way you think about the situation. This changes the way you feel about the situation. Do it to feel better right now. Feeling better again influences your future thoughts about the situation and creates a new belief. Because your beliefs are just repetitions of single, but chronic thoughts. Feeling better changes your beliefs.

At the end your current life situation will change, too. But that’s because of your vibrational work. With your new beliefs you got inspired to new actions which led to new results, just in case you doubt anything will change through changing your thoughts.

Do it to shift your emotional reactions and current quality of living (it feels better to feel better, doesn’t it?!), don’t do it to manifest a new reality. Shifting your vibration with the intent of changing what is, only creates resistance towards what is. With resistance you can’t feel good, without feeling good you can’t change your situation effortlessly. Focus on feeling good.

I’ve started reading @lucianop‘s blogpost about his 6 favorite productivity principles, but only got to no. 5 called “Tracking”. Reading about that felt like someone hit the nail on the head. That’s exactly what was missing in my current life situation.

I know a lot, have a lot of solutions and know what action is necessary to take to reach my goals. But I don’t implement even 20% of my knowlegde and stay mostly where I am. I do not critize myself for that, but also do not push me out of my comfort zone right now. I’m happy to stay calm and at peace with me most of the time, so I have no need to “punish” myself for my own behaviour. I know what I’m doing (or not doing in this case).

But. If I would track my actions, it would be much harder for me to face the reality. Would I see reality black on white, it would be much easier for me to act on it. It would be something I could change immediately because of the data I’ve got. To addition, I would be rather motivated to improve my life situation instead of drifting away, because I love charts and statistics. Any progress would be directly visible to me. If I eat less food today, I won’t notice anything on my body or the weight I guess. But if I track it, write it down, make a chart to be able to look at it, there would be some kind of satisfaction in that action.

Nevertheless, I’ve though a bit about tracking in general and noticed those 3 principles which apply to it perfectly. Let’s take a look at each of them:

Productivity

Surely, I will become productive tracking my actions. It motivates me like I mentioned above. It also forces me to face reality completely, which leads to more dissatisfaction or awareness (depending on my judgment) and can force me to act on it. Using a chart can be much more effective to involve others into your goals, letting them watch your progress live on the kitchen wall or creating a website which they can visit daily. You gain motivational support from them and the pressure to keep going even if it’s hard.

Awareness

Awareness is the key to living in the present. It creates peace, inner silence and joy. Awareness is independent of any judgment, because it just notices what is. This is the second benefit of tracking. You gain clarity of your current life situation instead of living in denial. If you deny your own life, you deny your ability to change whatever you like, you deny your own power. Awareness brings clarity which brings your power back to you. Awareness can envolve into a zen-like stadium of inner peace, without judgment, leading to the third benefit.

Acceptance

If you are aware of what is, you have the choice to fight it – and feel burdened, or to accept it and feel free. If you feel resistance towards what is, you can’t create something new because you resist your own creation. First you need to accept what your actions have brought you to. Only then you can choose to act differently. You dont need to love your current life situation, but you need to accept it to solve the resistance.

My first attempt

Well, now where I’ve layed down all the benefits of tracking, it would be a shame if I would not start applying it by myself! So, to be a great example I lay down to you what I want to track starting today. hehe.

• my eating habits
• my sleeping habits
• the time I spend online

I think this should be enough, or I won’t have any time left for living. I chose this three areas, because they affect my life quality in many ways. I bet it will be interesting to share it with all of you. Brings positive pressure (;

The last post was about the next step you should take and how changing your current direction changes your life circumstances, your manifestations and everything around you. This post is about taking this step even if it seems like not worth taking it. Inspired by Adrea Hess’ last blog post I want to dive into this topic a little bit more.

In short, what Andrea said was, that you should begin small instead of big, because you may be vibrationally not ready to take this leap. And damn, she is right! It’s quite nice to aim high, but if you haven’t shot ever before, you shouldn’t expect your best shot ever. Instead, if you take baby steps (like Andrea calls it), you can turn your vibration up right with your current actions. It’s all about alignment with what you do and where you want to be. It can be pretty hard to raise your vibration about a topic you have a chronic vibration about. But if you take baby steps, this also will solve itself.

Another point is the gigantic change that would occour in your life, if you would take a giant step and your vibration will go with it. You would feel like awakening into another life. Most people would be afraid of that.

But taking no step at all is neither the right choice. Just because you may feel that your actions would be pointless, there could be hidden power in it. You could become more interested, could align with it a bit more and get inspired. Any little action, backed up with the right vibration, could change a lot if you let it do. Relax, do your baby steps and be happy. Because even you will reach someday what you are aiming for, no matter what. You already did it as a child, didn’t you?