Hey Guys,

Today I want to share with you an article I’ve read about Not Giving A Fuck. It’s even called The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck and is written by Julien Smith (a New York Times bestselling author). It’s great and that’s why you will read it now.

Good. This is the start of a series called Road to Happiness that will contain some great resources, which inspired me to all of this.

Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. -Dale Carnegie

I’ve experienced that my fear of rejection declined my happiness in life. We all have. But we do not need to do this anymore. I’m trying to break free from my thoughts about other’s opinions about me for some time now. It’s a long-lasting process, if you’ve experienced pain several times in your past. But it’s completely achieveable. If you read the article, you will now know how to do it. I’ve liked it as a good reminder because it summons many aspects of a happy life into one step by step task list.

First you need to stop giving a fuck, before you can create your dream life.

It is not what happens to you but how you respond to what happens to you.

I’ve grown up in an enviroment where it’s important to gain some level of security for your own future, more important than being free and happy right now. It’s not that they disallowed me to be free and happy. For them it’s just much more important to see me walking on a safe part with a secure future, then walking on a free and happy path with no “real secure future outcome visible” for them. But that’s because they are not in my head, where only I am.

I’ve come to the realization, that security is more of a feeling, more of a mindset, than the posession of something. Basically it’s trusting yourself more than fearing the future. Also now where I’ve adopted the law of attraction lifestyle, I’m gaining a deeper understanding of why I should feel secure before I get the manifestational evidence of security.

So what would be the best for me and for my family to do?
It’s easy now for me to see:
I want to feel secure and safe right now, even improving that state of being and work with that mindset towards the future. Then there will be manifestational evidence for my family, that I can show them and that’s alright with me. But I can’t be focused on the evidence first, because this would build up resistance. With resistance there will be no manifestation, and with resistance there is no true feeling of security, is it?

Feel Secure First. Evidence Comes After.

It’s hard for people who don’t want to trust blindly towards something, they’ve never seen with their eyes. There is no evidence but your feelings and that’s what you should focus on only. Just improve your secure feeling. Then the manifestation will come, but it must be irrelevant to you if there’s evidence. The most important thing to you must be your feeling! You need to realize that what you’re seeking is not the evidence of security, but the feeling that the evidence would give you. So stop searching for the evidence and “fake it, till you make it” like they say.

Remember, it’s all about your reality, your feelings and your life experience. You don’t owe anything to anyone. It’s all about you in the first line. If you don’t feel good, you can’t help anyone feel better.

Today I want to share an analogy with you, that gives you a deeper understanding of human’s interaction with money. Nearly everyone I know would love to fill their banc accounts with more money than they have right now. But let’s talk about what money truly is, on a spiritual level.

Money is Energy

We use money to exchange energy. You’ve used up your energy on your bosses project and you get money for it. You pay for your food, which is an equivalent of used energy and objects. In reality money indicates the flow of energy for energy.

Imagine a river stream that’s flowing through a beautiful landscape and in the middle of that trough a tunnel. Imagine the tunnel as you and the stream as your money. The time the water is IN the tunnel stands for the present moment cash you own. The water that’s in front of the tunnel is the money you’ll become in the future and the water behind the tunnel is that which you’ve spend already.

You are the tunnel and the water within you is your current money. The stream allows only so much water to flow through you, as you can contain within the tunnel AND simultaneously spend on the other side. The river can’t flow faster than you spend your money (since you are always filled up to your fullest). So the only component that’s deciding how much money you are owning right now (the amount of water in the tunnel right now) is yourself (is the size of the tunnel).

The Small and The Big Tunnel

Now imagine one small tunnel, that’s tattered, tight and ugly. For me that’s an equivalent of a person who’s insecure, underestimates himself, and don’t feel worthy of much money.

In contrary imagine a great, wonderful, big, bridge-like tunnel where unbelieveable much water flows through. That’s a person who believes in himself, knows their value, knows that he can GIVE a lot and feels secure that they will get more and more money in their experience.

Now I know how hard it is to imagine and pretend to be like a big bridge, when we feel like a small tunnel. But that’s the secret of life: Fake it till you make it! You need to feel yourself up to what you want to experience. You can’t get security from outside of yourself, when you feel insecure on the inside. Then you’ll always need more and more affirmation from outside. You’ll be dependent on it. I guess people who know the law of attraction know what I’m talking about.

So what do you need to do now?
You need to create an image of yourself as the great bridge that is safe, feels worthy, and can contain and SPEND as much water as it flows into it’s experience, without the fear of getting less. You need to feel like that. You need to be that bridge, that person. And then you’ll experience it.