Authenticity, Truth And Honesty
by assbach
This article is big. I don’t mean the length but the meaning for my life. More than ever the 3 principles of authenticity, truth and honesty are showing up as obstacles to become improved in my life. Usually I pay average attention to them but lately there were several arguments with other people around this topic. I realized that I want to become more honest and direct. In the past I tended to cover the truth self-sacrificing myself to avoid trouble. I did this completely unconsciously because I believed in my ability to maintain peace no matter what. But I was blind to the differences that exist in the area of kindness.
The difference: being kind but honest or being fake
I don’t need to be mean to be honest like I imagined back then. I realized that I can combine both ways together and avoid to be fake. If you try to be someone else than your feelings are telling yourself, you are fake. For my self I was behaving fake because I believed that there is more value in current peace than in longtime honesty. I was simply afraid of being rejected in my childhood and this pattern lasts until today in my subconscious. But also for myself it’s time to change my mind and start being more authentic than I ever was. I must face the truth and realize that there is no need for the fear of being rejected for me anymore. I am self-confident today, I know my values and I am ready to fight for my path. If you disagree with me I won’t put you down. But if you won’t accept me I continue my journey regardless of yours.
Truth and honesty lead to authenticity. The profound question: “Who am I?” will be answered through acting honest, speaking words of truth. Never hesitate to express your view. There will be always someone hatin’ on you. But if you continue walking on this path you’ll get to know yourself better a lot along the journey.
Today for me it’s more valuable to know myself than to please everybody.
12. Dezember 2009 um 19:30
Michael, I only need to say you’ve got it right. Faking it for approval is a losing strategy in the long run. You need to be real to attract the people in your life who accept the real you. Otherwise you will be faking it for the rest of your life to maintain what you’ve attained by faking it. It’s a vicious cycle.